"Someone else isn't making you unhappy. You are."
Tren Griffin, author and investor behind 25iq, on why it's so hard to make someone else happy or change them, why your own behavior and happiness are what you actually control, and the line he uses when someone tries to hand you their problem.
IN THIS SHORT
- It's very hard to make someone else happy, and even harder to change them
- What you do control: your own behavior and your own happiness
-Tren's approach: when someone hands you a problem, decline kindly, point them to resources, and wish them luck
-Only take on what makes you happy and productive
THE PHILOSOPHY
The Stoic philosopher Epictetus opened his Enchiridion with the same idea: "Some things are in our control and others not."
SOURCE
Epictetus, The Enchiridion (Elizabeth Carter translation): http://classics.mit.edu/Epictetus/epicench.html
From Infinite Loops with Jim O'Shaughnessy.
