"We're constantly in a state of forgetting."
Spencer Greenberg, psychology researcher and co-author of The 12 Levers, on why constant forgetting turns our memories into stories where we're usually right, and the inner why technique he recommends for catching the real cause of a negative emotion.
IN THIS SHORT
- Spencer says we forget almost everything that happens to us, then build stories from the little samples that remain
- After an angry conversation, the story we retell probably has the other person in the wrong and us in the right
- The inner why technique: for a few days, notice each time an emotion shifts, especially for the negative, and ask why right away
- His takeaway: in the moment there's usually one cause to spot, but wait even 20 minutes and the anger can linger with no clear source
THE BOOK
The 12 Levers: https://12leversbook.com
From Infinite Loops with Jim O'Shaughnessy.
Full episode: https://youtu.be/nJBxhS4GqFU?si=dCdWd1fw17FExDqu
